Male And Female And Neither Of These

I think I'd like to enter the sex/gender debate I've heard is ongoing. Now forgive me if I'm wrong but my interpretation of the work/life balance for these two words is based on the premise that sex is what you do with the wherewithal you're endowed with within your gender. And the sex act is performance art for 1 or more entities on a given stage. Whatever way you look at this function (the sex act) it's a ridiculous event in the time/space continuum with only the redeeming feature of sometimes creating life. Procreational or recreational there's not a cigarette paper's difference between them and if there were the cigarette paper would dissolve in the bodily fluids. There's the adage of 'pain is sex' but then there's also 'pain is not having sex' but if we get into 'pain is gender' then that's a whole new ball game for the female who wants to change sides. Hormones have a lot to answer for!